My Multitasking vs. My Wife’s Focus

When my wife and I first started dating, I often thought she was incredibly inefficient. I had trained myself to multitask from a young age, unaware that true multitasking doesn’t exist; our brains just constantly switch between tasks. Growing up, I took pride in being able to juggle many things at once. Only recently did I realize that single-minded focus is much more difficult, and I felt ashamed.

From my wife, I learned the importance of focusing on one thing at a time and living in the moment. She often says I’m smarter and that I’ve taught her a lot, but in reality, she possesses great wisdom and was sent by heaven to teach me. I am grateful and am learning to concentrate. It turns out that working when you work, playing when you play, and eating when you eat is quite challenging. My wife is a master of life, while I used to be just an efficient machine. Now, I’m learning to live well, thanks to the opportunity given by heaven to not only survive but also to live. The concept is simple, but execution is not easy.

Immigrating brought enormous changes, mostly positive, but adapting wasn’t as easy as I imagined. Simple things like crossing the street took me a lot of time to learn. However, my wife had no such issues; her sense of direction is incredible, and she never seems to feel out of place. Having her with me gives me immense peace of mind.

Language was another major challenge. I started learning from the basics, like ㄅㄆㄇㄈ. Initially, I kept urging my wife to learn with me, but I soon realized she was much better. She picked it up just by chatting with Taiwanese friends. I should be learning from her. My phonetic knowledge only really helps me type better, haha.

The changes in my work almost overwhelmed me for a while. But seeing my wife live her life so well, without worries, made me feel better. Later, I learned from friends that she was actually very worried about me but never showed it. My dear wife, you’ve worked hard.

My wife does have worries, but they are always fleeting, quickly returning to her default state of super happiness. Being happy brings good things. I am thankful for having such a high-frequency wife, as being with her means good things often happen. Even when I’m down, I quickly get back on track. My wife’s energy is incredibly powerful, haha, and I am grateful.

Thank you to my wife for her single-minded focus. She puts her full concentration into everything she does. If she ever gets distracted, it’s usually my fault. Sorry about that!

The consequence of multitasking is overthinking. My brain is used to constant thinking, and even in the slightest downtime, it will start pondering, never stopping. If I encounter a life bottleneck, the problem worsens.

The company’s transformation required a lot of thinking, and I couldn’t handle the pressure of overthinking. One day, I realized my wife could maintain an empty-headed state. Wow, thank you, heaven, for such a wonderful teacher. She can solve many problems just by daydreaming. I thought I was smart? Turns out, this is what it means to lack wisdom. Don’t panic when things happen; heaven will take care of you. I learned this from my wife. Many things don’t depend on how smart or hardworking you are but on fate. I’ve never seen my wife worry about something for more than a day in over twenty years. Wow, I’ve been worrying about different things every day for over twenty years. One day, I realized that I wasn’t really worried about anything specific; I was just used to worrying. Solving one worry always brought another. It’s better to just live well in the present.

Thank you, heaven, for the clever arrangement that let this insecure child meet a wise wife. Thank you, my wife, for always treating me like a child and taking care of me, replacing my mother. I’ve already caused my mom enough worry, and my quota is used up. Luckily, my wife took over, following up on this troublesome case.

Thank you, my wife. I promise you, I will never ever grow up, haha, and thank you for all your hard work.

Wishing you, who have the fate to read this, health and happiness.

July 2024